Wednesday 22 November 2017

Life After University

After yet another prolonged period of posting nothing, guess who's back again...
You probably weren't wondering where I've been or what I've been doing but I'll tell you anyway.

1. I started studying for my MSc in Forensic Psychology at University of Kent in September 2016.
2. Whilst studying for my masters, I worked part-time in a pub when I went home to Nottingham in the holidays up until January 2017.
3. From December 2016, I worked part-time as a support worker 3 days a week in Kent alongside my masters.
4. I moved home in May 2017, when lectures had finished, to concentrate on writing my dissertation. 
5. After moving home, I started working part-time as a support worker in August.
6. In September, I handed in my final pieces of coursework.
7. I received my final marks/results in October.
8. I have recently secured a position as a support worker in a hospital providing care in a low secure/locked rehab setting. 
9. I have signed an honorary contract to work with a community forensic team with the NHS.
10. I still have no savings and I am not qualified to practice.
Everybody's reasons for going to university are different. Personally, I went to university because I liked being in education and wanted to increase my job prospects. I had always worked hard in school and I found studying/getting good marks relatively easy. We were also told at sixth form that if we went to university we would start further up the career ladder than those who did not have a degree and would therefore earn more money. So, going to university seemed like the right thing for me to do.

After completing my undergraduate degree in BSc Psychology, I decided that studying a masters would be a good move as this extra qualification would set me apart from others. I was told that after studying a masters, I could either train 'on the job' for 2 years or go on to do a doctorate in order to be a fully qualified psychologist. What people didn't tell you is how hard it is to find an assistant psychologist position in order to train 'on the job' and that it would probably take far longer than 2 years. Nobody tells you that you need a lot of experience to get onto a doctorate either.


A psychology degree down and a masters later, I'm still not fully qualified and I'm working in a job that doesn't require any qualifications in order to gain experience. I wish people would have been honest at the start and told prospective students how hard it is to secure a decent graduate position and informed us just how competitive the psychological field is, especially in the Midlands. Even with this information, I would have still gone to university but at least I would have been prepared for the hard work after graduating.


At present, I am living back at home with my mum, have no money to my name and have two jobs I could have secured without going to university. As my masters course wasn't funded, I had to take out a £10k loan - which only covered my course fees and part of my rent. I had to work to pay the rest of my rent, bills and living costs (like food and toiletries). So even though I have always been in paid work since I was 15/16, I have worked just to stay out of my overdraft. I'm proud of myself for not over-spending and budgeting my money to be able to be in this position. However, I know many people who did not go to university that are on more money than I would be on even after doing a doctorate because they have experience. Experience is valued far more than a qualification and I wish I had considered that and done more before and during university.


Every university experience is different. Some might graduate and get their dream job straight away, they might be able to move into their own place and start 'adulting'. Others, like myself, might find themselves in a sort of adult 'limbo'. Graduating is weird. You come out of university and move back home to find that nothing's really changed. Although I have lived on my own for 4 years at university, I am back living where I was before it all started, I'm struggling to save money and I'm far from my dream job. I don't even know what my dream job is. I spend a LOT of time thinking about my future, how to find a good job that I will enjoy and how I'll ever be able to save enough money for a deposit on a house. I have no problem living at home, I have it really good here and I'm incredibly lucky to have such a supportive family. But sometimes I look at people my age around me that have well-paid full-time jobs, some of them are buying houses and starting families. They seem to have it all figured out. Additionally, I only had 9 contact hours a week in my final year - this doesn't exactly prepare you for a full-time job.

My general point is that if you have recently graduated and still have no idea what you're doing with your life - you are not alone. Post-graduate blues are most definitely a thing. I am not used to the working world, I miss my uni friends, I have regressed back to a less independent person by moving back home, I am constantly thinking about my career, how to save for a deposit on a house and my future in general. The adjustment is hard and I think it needs to be spoken about more to prepare students for what might be to come. 


That's my rant over anyway and explanation for what I've been doing with my life for the past year.
x

Wednesday 4 January 2017

Christmas 2016

Hope you all had a fab Christmas and New Years!

Recently I've been watching 'what I got for Christmas' videos from basically every Youtuber, so thought I would do my own in written form. 

This Christmas was a great one for me as I was able to see my family all together, got spoiled by everyone and everyone seemed to like the presents I got for them! Earlier this year I was fretting about the finances of my MSc course so had basically finished Christmas shopping by October as I assumed I'd be skint by December.

Here's a few photos from the Christmas period, some of my Christmas presents and some anecdotes... 



On Christmas mornings when me and my brother Jack were young, our parents made us wait at the top of the stairs for them to sort downstairs out (mainly my mother having a cuppa and finding the camera). My dad would wind us up by looking in at the living room at our presents, which we couldn't see, then he made a ridiculous surprised face at us. We still have a photo every year at the top of the stairs and send it to my dad. This is the reply we got this year...


When we were allowed to eventually go downstairs we had assigned sofas with a sack of presents placed in front - mine was to the right and Jack's was to the left. We still stick with the same routine even at ages 24 and 21. 
Here are a few of the things that were in Santa's sack (lol) this year:


All of these candles are from my mum and her partner, Matt. Except the Yankee Candle, which was from my boyfriend, Tom.

Prosecco candle - Aldi
Penguin candle - Face2Body
'Be Marry and Bright' candle - TK Maxx
Holiday Magic Yankee Candle
'C' candle - ASDA
Midsummer's Night Yankee Candle
Vanilla candle in silver pot - B & M
Blue/silver candle - Tesco 


TK Maxx


New Look


 New Look


Matalan


Tesco


Lime jumper - Next
Tshirt & Jumper - New Look


New Look


ASDA
Anyone that knows me will know how appropriate this is for me.


Amazon


Wahl Hairdryer
Thanks Mummy and Matt! I loved everything.


Around midday Tom came over and we exchanged presents.


He bought me the Hugo Boss 'Woman Extreme' perfume.
The Zara perfume was from my dad and his partner. Both smell lovely.


The boyf also got me a coat, how risky of him! Paid off though because I lurveee it.
He also bought me a waterfall style dressing gown, colouring book, the candle I mentioned earlier and some cute bear socks.
Thank you Tom x

Dad's House

When Tom had gone back home and we had eaten Christmas dinner, my dad picked me and Jack up to go to his house. As we pulled up I noticed a car I didn't recognise on the drive. I asked 'whose car is that?', assuming it would be someone visiting, but my dad didn't answer and just stopped the car in front of the drive. The professional cardboard note read in green:

'To Charlotte
Merry Christmas
Love From
Daddy and Lorraine'

And I was like holy wtf are they having a laugh. Usually I work out surprises because people drop hints or ask really weird questions and give it away, but I was honestly so shocked and had no idea. Not only that but apparently they've had the car for ages too and have just been hiding it. I'm such a lucky girl, thanks Dad and Lorraine (Dad's wife)!


I also drove round with that bow on which was definitely not distracting when it blew up in front of the windscreen.



Note: If I knew I was getting a car and was about to have a load of photos taken, I would have put makeup on, put contacts in and not worn a massive reindeer jumper. The hat would have stayed.


Dad and Lorraine also got me these lovely lovely Kurt Geiger boots. <3 i="">


And the body shop bauble. 
The Molton Brown bauble was from my bosses at work.



It was Baby Warren's first Christmas too. 
This is my step-sister's baby and he is too cute not to get a mention.


Look at that face.


Loooook.

When at my Dad's, Jack told us he had bought us all tickets to see School of Rock the Musical in London for Christmas.
Cheers brah.


After opening our presents from dad and giving out ours to them, we went to visit family at my Uncle's house. We saw two of my uncles, my auntie, my nanna and my cousins (Harry isn't actually that tall, he's stood on something).


My uncle and auntie (and family) bought me bracelets the exact same colour without knowing. We clearly all have similar tastes! 
Thanks guys!

Boxing Day

My auntie, my grandad and my three youngest cousins came over for brunch and to gift exchange. A full English was devoured, which was top notch, thanks to my mother.


Tom then came round to skank some of the breakfast and to watch a film after his shift at work.


This happened.


And he didn't watch the film.

Some more family and friends came over in the evening and we played that 'who am I/name game' thing (post it notes on the head, you know the one). That was interesting. There were several arguments about whether clues should be given. I had Keith Lemon on my head, and I gave Jack Adolf Hitler. Obviously. 

We then played family fortunes which was well...  Here's a few legit quotes from the night:

'Name a superpower that people would want most' - 'Swimming'.

'Something you say instead of bye' - 'Bonjour'.

'Name a European Capital City' - 'Germany' - 'What's the Capital City of Germany?' - 'Helsinki'.

'What's open 24 hours a day' - 'Roads'. 
I mean sure it makes sense but wow who even thinks of that?


The day after me and brojangles took my new coat and car out for another spin (to my Dad's house).

And that was pretty much my festive activities.

Hope you all had a fab time!

Happy Holidays
xxx






Sunday 1 January 2017

Postgrad Room Tour

Hey dolls,

Thought I'd let you have a nosey at my current university room.

For my postgraduate accommodation I put a deposit down on privately rented house with some friends earlier on this year. My place on my MSc course had not been confirmed yet so I took a risk and assumed I would get onto it, since there's no bloody way I could have afforded on-campus post grad accommodation! Ridicul-arse prices.

Also, a lot of the decorations and storage will be the same as in my previous room tours because I'm poor and really can't afford or be bothered to buy new things every year.


Storage boxes - B & M
Blanket - Matalan
Love heart fairy lights - Amazon

Mirror - B & M
Black storage drawers - ASDA
(Not sure where either of the heart hanging decs are from as they were gifts).

Hanging flower vine - Amazon
LOVE Ornament - B & M
Coasters - B & M
Candle - ASDA
+ various toiletries and perfumes

(Photo is pretty dark but FYI the bed has a leather headboard and a memory foam aka best-thing-on-the-planet mattress).
Blanket - ASDA
Quilt Covers - Amazon

Lamp - ASDA
Woodwick Trilogy Candle - Boots
Slippers - Next

Coasters - B & M
Butterfly Ornament - B & M
Bits and bobs storage box - B & M
Pearl fairy lights - B & M
Canvas - B & M
Tray - B & M
Raspberry Candle - The Range
Elephant candle holder - Amazon
Photo frames - ASDA
White love heart hanging decoration - Amazon

The wardrobe is built-in in the corner next to my desk and big chest of drawers, but I didn't think a couple of white doors would be very interesting.

So there's what I did with the limited decorations that I've owned for years that you're probably sick of seeing. My fave part is definitely the foamy mattress. 

x